When a loved one loses a person close to them, we often struggle with what to say in times of grief. We want to fix it. When we have that “fixing” spirit, we are feeding our own needs. When we have a need to “fix” it, that is our own personal way of handling their grief. It is at times uncomfortable for us to see our loved ones in pain. It can be heart wrenching to watch our loved ones hurt and we cannot make it stop. Often times we say, “if you need me call me” or “let me kn